20130810 163410 300x225 POSITIVE PARENTING   I STILL LOVE BEING A DAD!!About 4 years ago I began the web site I Love Being a Dad. Over this time I have had a great deal of enjoyment writing these posts for you. I am not an expert on parenting. I write about my personal experiences that I have had raising three boys. This is not a task that I do alone. Their mothers (two from mom #1 and one from mom #2) play an equally important role in their lives. I thank them for seeing the importance of raising kids to be useful members of society.

This website began as a result of a change of plans.

I originally began this thing with the sole intent of selling tee shirts. My idea was to begin a tee shirt web site, get enough traffic and become rich and famous.

During my research for developing a website, I found that this was a very hard goal to reach. I also found out that it would be easier for me to create a web site about a topic that I cared about and then get traffic that I could use to become rich and famous.

I thought about how much I enjoyed fatherhood and how there was no real forum to discuss this subject. What made me aware of this was when I attended the Million Man March in Washington, DC in October of 1995. That was the first time I had been with that many men, who happened to be men of color, who all had the same idea of being positive.

I went with my oldest son and a good friend (Thanks Bobby for inviting us to go with you). That experience changed all of our lives. That was 18 years ago and we still talk about it as if it were yesterday.

After 4 years the rich and famous hasn’t happened yet but there is a valuable lesson that I have learned along the way.

My mission statement on I Love Bring a Dad is to talk about those issues as they relate to positive parenting.

As I write each post I am growing to understand just how important the concept of positive parenting is.

My parents laid a good foundation with my sister, brother and I with many examples to show how this thing worked.

I have covered many topics such as the need for discipline, not being your kid’s best friend and being comfortable in your skin to name just a few. I tried my best to demonstrate how important being a positive parent is.

Somewhere along the way I realized that not only were my parents teaching positive parenting skills, they were also teaching a positive way of life. They felt that positive thinking would help us to overcome most obstacles that we would face in life.

This is why I have made positivity my mantra.

There is no accident for me to become the guy whose glass is always 1/2 full. I feel it was a natural progression for me. I’m at a point in my life when it is almost unbearable to be around anything that is negative. I feel that way because negativity is a really draining process and I don’t have time to have my energies wasted.

As an artist my mom was full of new wave thinking. This is the only way any artist can continue to create. During my young years she would take us, my sister, brother and I, to many art shows and galleries around the city.

One show in particular was the one that took place in The West Village around this time of the year. The West Village is in lower Manhattan and is the place where you find people and things that maybe considered outside the box. All the top jazz clubs were there. There were also many art galleries and they even hosted a world famous basketball tournament. I really enjoyed going to West 4th Street to see those games.

My mom loved art and I really enjoyed watching her take a blank canvas and bring it to life. There was always a feeling of hope and warmth in all her creations.

I get that same enjoyment when I take a blank page and write a post. Over these years I hope that I have expressed the thought that parenting can be a positive experience. This is not to say that I have not experienced problems with my boys. There have been many but what I have learned is that I can turn those into positive experiences. Problems can be stepping stones for growth.

I want to thank all of you for your support for these 4 years and I look forward to sharing everything that I continue to learn about positive parenting.

Please take a moment to remember all those who were lost on September 11, 2001. Word has it that there were many positive parents and positive kids who lost their lives on that day.

I’m the guy whose glass is always ½ full.

I LOVE BEING A DAD!!

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