A New Pic for Blog 5 5 2013 e1367805780148 225x300 POSITIVE PARENTING   LIVING A NORMAL, STABLE LIFEI will continually pray for the families who lost loved ones as a result of the bombings at the Boston Marathon.  I will also pray for the 269 people who were injured. It is my understanding that many of them have returned home. There are a dozen or so who have lost limbs because they were at the wrong place at the wrong time. I will put in some extra prayers for their quick rehabilitation.

In each case all of those affected will have to go through a period of readjustment. For some it will not be easy to return to a normal life. I am very happy that many across the country and abroad have reached out to show their support. It is also reassuring that even though these two monsters succeeded in setting off bombs at a very popular event, they failed in their attempt to destroy the human spirit.

I remember clearly when the World Trade Center towers were destroyed.  I thank God that no friends or family members were part of the over 3000 people who lost their lives. I was here in NYC when the attack took place. I was horrified as I watched these two majestic buildings fall to the ground along with attacks on the Pentagon and those who lost their lives on that plane that went down in Pennsylvania.

One thought came to my mind. That thought is that life as we know it will never be the same.

I wondered how long it would take before I would feel comfortable about living in what I think is the greatest city in the world. I stayed home for two days because that’s what the Governor and the Mayor ordered. They wanted to make sure that there were no more threats in the borough of Manhattan. (Manhattan is one of five boroughs that make up NYC. The World Trade Center was located in lower Manhattan.  )

Those two days were very nerve racking. At the time I lived near the only airport that was open in the whole country and the motion in and out of JFK International Airport was done only by military planes. These aircraft are extremely loud and it was difficult sleeping during that time period.

This reminds me of an experience my kids went through while they were visiting their grandmother in Youngstown, Ohio. This happened many years ago and they still talk about their insecure feelings they had at that time. She lived in a very rough neighborhood. The unemployment rate was at a very high level. It seemed that those who needed to act illegally came out at night. My kids and their grandmother became very adept at rolling out of their beds in the late night and early morning hours because that’s when the gun fire would be most active.

We usually think of terrorism as an acts perpetrated by foreign nationals. They set bombs in prominent areas in an attempt to drive fear into the population at large.

We fail to realize that places where my late mother-in-law lived were and are places where people live in constant fear. In these places no one is living a normal, stable life.

Take Chicago, Ill. for example. Homicides in this great city had increased 60% for the first three months of 2012 as compared to the same time in 2011. Most of these are Black on Black crimes that have taken place in the city’s south side.

Chicago has one of the toughest gun laws in the country. Despite this the amount of handguns that find their way into the city are staggering. These are not foreign nationals building bombs in their tiny apartments. These are Americans who have found loop holes in the existing laws which make it legal to buy guns in another state and bring them to these troubled areas.

Chicago is not the only city to experience increases in violence. Detroit, Mich., St. Louis, Mo., and Oakland, Calif. are becoming some of the most dangerous places in America.

Some say that rising unemployment in this troubled economic times are the fuel for these increases in violence. It is well documented that the minority populations in these cities are the first to feel the effects of a negative economy. We are usually the last to be hired and the first to be fired.

I moved to Ohio in 1973. Cities like Cleveland and Youngstown were thriving communities. In the mid to late 1970’s the steel mills in Youngstown closed as a result of cheaper steel in Europe and Asia.

The closures first affected just Youngstown.  After a short period of time the affect was felt all over the Great Lakes area. Some areas were able to recover. Other areas like the South Side of Chicago and Youngstown never recovered.

What did increase was the amount and level of violence that has occurred in these cities.

As positive parents we want to live in a nice environment. It can be a very difficult life when part of one’s night time ritual is rolling out of his/her bed.

I understand that we as a country have to do all we can to protect our way of life from those who were born in far off lands.

I also think it is equally important to protect those who live in those cities that are over run with crime.  They do not deserve to be terrorized any longer. Everyone is entitled to live a normal and stable life.

I’m the guy whose glass is always ½ full.

I LOVE BEING A DAD!!

 

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