New York City 035 300x225 POSITIVE PARENTING   TRUSTWORTHINESSAs a positive parent, I feel that trustworthiness is an important quality I want my kids to possess. The definition of trustworthy is: deserving of trust or confidence; dependable; reliable.  One of the things that worry me as a parent is how trustworthy will my kids become. Everyone wants their children to be useful members of society. The problem is how do I teach trustworthiness?

I am a firm believer that our children become mirror images of us.  If I am the type of person that yells and curses all the time, it will just be a matter of time before my kids will begin doing the same thing. This also works on the other end of the spectrum. If I exhibit positive behavior, my kids will do the same. It is a proven fact that kids pay more attention to what their parents do than to what their parents say.

The question of how do I teach trustworthiness begins with me. I have to become the best person that I can become. I have to make a conscience effort that everything I do will affect them. There is always that fear that they will do something that will throw all my hard work out of the window. The fact is there is no way I can control what anyone will do. I have to work very hard to keep myself under control. It is my job let them know that everyone has choices. Positive choices will yield positive results. Negative choices will yield negative results.

We also have to give them opportunities to practice what they are learning. We must give them a chance to see what it feels like to get positive results. It can start with the little things like politeness and showing respect. I feel that these two things are the precursors for trustworthiness. It is my thought that by being concerned about others helps to be seen as a person who  can be trusted.

By doing the same things over and over again our kids can see what positive results look like. They will see that those we come in contact will see us as people who are deserving of trust. Our kids will trust us because they will see how consistent and confident we are. The bottom line is that we, as positive parents, must work hard to teach our kids about trustworthiness.

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One comment on “POSITIVE PARENTING – TRUSTWORTHINESS

  • That s one reason why kids need to learn proper visiting etiquette so they will be invited back!.Being a good example is the most effective teaching tool but taking the time to teach your child how to be a good guest will increase the chances of them behaving properly..Basic manners always apply. Eventually they will have the kind of manners and behavior that will make you proud and glad you taught them!.Main points to address . Because most kids this age love to visit friends and family they will have many chances to practice proper guest behavior and be motivated to learn what that entails.

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