Over the seven years since being divorced there is one topic that comes up as I interact with other dads. That topic is child support. I’ve heard everything. Some dads think that they shouldn’t pay. Some dads think that the mom isn’t spending the money right. Some dads think that they are paying too much. Some dads even question if the kids are theirs.
Despite whatever we think, as positive parents it is our moral obligation to take care of our kids. This must be in effect whether we are with them or not. We should not allow our kids to suffer because we are no longer in love with their mother. We must get our minds clear and come to the realization that our kids didn’t ask to come here. They are here because of the choices we made.
In this state (New York) as throughout the country there are strict rules regarding child support. In this state these are the breakdowns 17% for one child. 25% for 2 children. 29% for 3 children. 31% for 4 children. 35% for 5 or more children. These percentages are based on your gross pay (that’s before taxes). The payments will go on until the child is 21 years old.
As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. In the beginning I had all feelings of the other dads I talked about earlier. I soon came to realize that none of that mattered. The only thing that was important was that I was doing what I was supposed to do. That was taking care of my kid. There are times when my finances are short because of my obligation. The one thing that is true is that I don’t have to look over my shoulder. I am not worried about the authorities coming after me.
Paying child support is our moral obligation to our kids. If we claim to be positive parents we have to pay.
This is my opinion. I would love to read what your opinion is.
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As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
RT @WendellJordanSr: As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
@WendellJordanSr Congrats to you sir for being a proud parent RT:As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support ,,,,,,,
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As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
RT @WendellJordanSr: As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
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As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
RT @WendellJordanSr: As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
Paying child support is our moral obligation to our kids. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
RT @WendellJordanSr: Paying child support is our moral obligation to our kids. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
@WendellJordanSr Good for you! Some children miss out on this support due to parents who avoid this responsibility! Know, they will remember
As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
RT @WendellJordanSr: As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
RT @WendellJordanSr: As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
As a positive parent, I’ve been paying child support for the past seven years. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2010/07/18...
@WendellJordanSr. I wish my ex would get the point of this, but as a positive parent myself I will keep it to myself.
I have to say that I agree 100%. Your children will eventually grow up and look back, with the eyes of an adult, on what we as parents did for them and in order to raise them. I am a single mom and absolutely believe that my son’s life is enhanced by the child support that his father pays. He’s able to have things and go places that I would not be able to provide on a single income. Although he doesn’t have two parents in the home, he at least has the benefit of not suffering financially because of it.
I also know two single dads, one whose former wife is in the same field as he and who pays support when he has the kids, he pays support to her when she has the kids. The other single dad has full custody but doesn’t pursue child support out of pride.
It is easy to think that the child support system is somehow victimixing dads who leave their wives & children, but the truth is whoever has custody gets support, because it is really the kids who need it and are benefitting.
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