POSITIVE PARENTING: SPANKING IS GOOD !!

Posted: 15th November 2009 by Wendell Jordan Sr. in POSTS

Have you ever had the situation where you witnessed a kid out of control and the parent was at a loss? They didn’t know what to do. I’ve seen this play out many times in my lifetime and each time I was so close to intervening, but I couldn’t.  This did not concern me.  It wasn’t any of my business.

There were many times in my kids lives where this same situation came up.  The only difference was I knew exactly what to do.  I believe my role as a parent includes training my children so that they may become useful members of society.  They’re behavior will determine how useful they will be.

Society does not tolerate bad behavior.  The jails are filled with many who exhibit this.  This is not to say that are children will become criminals if they don’t behave but, if we don’t start when they are young, to train them, then we are opening the door to many other problems.

Spanking is one way adjust this.  Some say that spanking is cruel.  They also say that it can destroy a child.

We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse.  The two are not the same!! No one and I mean no one should abuse a child.  Physically or mentally.  Spanking is not abuse.  Spanking is a way to get and keep control over our children.

Sometimes parents, in their quest to give their kids freedom,  they turn them into animals.  They become these little monsters who don’t behave, are rude and are completely out of control.  I feel that if these behaviors are not nipped in the bud when they are young , these little monsters become big monsters.  I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve seen a teenager be disrespectful to his/her parents.  It saddens me and angers me at the same time.  I feel that if these parents had disciplined these kids when they were young, these present problems may not exist.  A simple spanking lets them know whose in control and who they need to show respect to.

In my own experience, a few taps on the backside is all that was needed.  That small act established who was in control.  It let it be known who was the parent and who was the kid. Very rarely did I have to do this more than once.  I remember  myself as a child, my dad or mom would give me a spanking, and if  a later time I misbehaved they would give me that look.  (Don’t act stupid. You know what I’m talking about. That look). That look let me know that if I didn’t turn myself around they would go to the next level. Most of the time it worked.

What was more important, they were showing me how to deal with my own kids. I do not have to beat my kids into submission. (Child Abuse Is Not Cool!!). A simple thing like spanking is a great tool to use in child rearing.

I’d sure like to know what you think about this post and all my other posts.

I love being a dad!!

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  1. Table4Five says:

    @WendellJordanSr You wrote “A simple thing like spanking is a great tool to use in child rearing”. I completely disagree.

  2. Table4Five says:

    @WendellJordanSr You wrote “A simple thing like spanking is a great tool to use in child rearing”. I completely disagree.

  3. Table4Five says:

    @WendellJordanSr You wrote “A simple thing like spanking is a great tool to use in child rearing”. I completely disagree.

  4. @Table4Five Please read the post. This is not child abuse. As a parent you have to establish control of your children.

  5. @Table4Five Please read the post. This is not child abuse. As a parent you have to establish control of your children.

  6. @Table4Five Please read the post. This is not child abuse. As a parent you have to establish control of your children.

  7. CNA jobs says:

    Great, I never knew this, thanks.

  8. bbbgen says:

    @WendellJordanSr do u spank ur child

  9. @bbbgen Yes. Do you?

  10. Hi! I happened upon your blog when i was on Bing searching for some recent Twitter trends to find what’s been hot recently. Hung around a lttle bit to take a look around and browse some of your posts… decent stuff. I’m going to be sure to return in the future some time and catch up.

  11. I will not go as far to saw that spanking is wrong, but I will say that spanking to keep control over your kids is wrong. We need to realize that the only person we can control is self. I think we’d find ourselves having to discipline less if we recognized this because a good portion of our struggles with our children boil down to a battle for control. If control our kids now, when does it stop? We need to teach them and guide them to learn to effectively control themselves. This doesn’t happen by controling them. Alfie Kohn, author of Unconditional Parenting says, that kids learn to make good decisions by making decisions, not by following instructions. Remember, a strong-willed kid isn’t a bad thing, but we need to make sure that we aren’t forcing them to bend to our will, as there are also strong-willed parents too.

  12. JNicholsLMFT says:

    @WendellJordanSr I commented on your post. Would like to know what you think.

  13. Wendell Jordan Sr. says:

    I agree that control is the main issue. In my personal experience I have found that I need to have control over my young children. There is nothing worse than having a child act up because things are not going his/her way. There is no way anyone can rationalize with a 2-6 year old. The spanking (I”M NOT TALKING ABOUT CHILD ABUSE) is a means to get their attention so that they will get a clear idea of who is in charge. Kids should never be in charge!

  14. emusicmotion says:

    RT @WendellJordanSr: Some say that spanking is cruel. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  15. PopularMusicLLC says:

    @WendellJordanSr I really like this, and feel the same way. I have a pair of 16 yr olds and I never have to tell them more than twice.

  16. PopularMusicLLC says:

    RT @WendellJordanSr: Some say that spanking is cruel. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  17. TheInfiniteLove says:

    RT @WendellJordanSr: Some say that spanking is cruel. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  18. We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15... #fb

  19. martian_mandi says:

    RT @WendellJordanSr: We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15... #fb

  20. ReneeANDSharon says:

    RT @WendellJordanSr: Some say that spanking is cruel. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  21. We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  22. lizaboop4810 says:

    RT @WendellJordanSr: We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  23. We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  24. MikeBroderick says:

    @WendellJordanSr GIVING THE ATMOSPHERE AN EVEN BREAK: http://mikebroderick.wordpress.com/

  25. We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  26. randomrisk says:

    RT @WendellJordanSr: We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  27. ReneeANDSharon says:

    RT @WendellJordanSr: Some say that spanking is cruel. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  28. We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  29. annmtimmerman says:

    @WendellJordanSr If you could imagine your father appreciating/correcting you without spanking you, what would he have done?

  30. We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  31. mariabarber says:

    RT @WendellJordanSr: We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/11/15...

  32. “We must be able to to tell the difference between spanking and child abuse.”

    Spanking is child abuse. I like the easy questions. Any more?

    An out of control adult would not be hit, so how does it follow it is okay for a child?

  33. Wendell Jordan Sr. says:

    I do not agree. I am not talking about hitting your child at every infraction. In my personal experience, I have had to only spank my kids once. I’m talking about a light tap on the behind. This is done as part of a complete package that trains kids how to behave. Kids need to know who’s in charge and every kid will challenge your authority. Kids are not equals. They are kids. What do you do when your child misbehaves?
    Thank you for your great comment!! :)

 

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