The one thing that I hate to see is my kids unhappy. Sometimes their happiness is directly related to what I let them do or not let them do.
I learned from my dad that there has to be some separation between my kids and me. What this means is that I must always be in parent mode. This is not to say that I won’t let my kids voice their opinion, have fun with them and in some cases let them make some decisions.
I must be very careful not to get into a people pleasing role with my kids. I must make decisions that reflect my role as a parent. I can’t make a decision that would put them in danger for fear that they might dislike or be angry with me.
I have to have develop the skills to see into the future. Is what I’m letting them do going to help them grow or hinder them? This is where the separation comes in. As a parent I must be able to make good choices.
After all my kids will go through these same experiences with their kids. What will they do? Will they make those decisions that will keep our grand kids in eternal happiness? I hope not. Their decisions, I hope, will be based on sound reasoning.
Our kids( grand kids ) have to know who is the parent.
I love being a dad.
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Will the real black men [fathers] stand up and start accepting their responsibilities as positive role models for their children. I beg to differ with Sir Charles Barkley who stated that athletes are not role models for young people. Why does M.J.[Michael Jordan] endorse footwear that cost $5.00 to be manufactured in 3rd. world countries, then affixes his name to nike which in turn marks the cost up 100%. In turn young men and women bring bodily to each other for the distinction of wearing some $5.00 footwear, which my Chuck Taylor[Converse] sneakers of 40-50 yrs. ago were just as good at $9.99.{M.J’s footwear can cost up to $200.00]Come out Black-Men and accept your Godly positions as fathers and the head of your homes. Teach your children that is not “cool” to have your pants hanging off your A.. and your underwear showing,and what about your cap turned forward the same direction that we should be moving in.Let’s stop making the Funeral Homes richer with our children and start enriching their lives with positive food i.e. college, and two parent homes [happy] and while we are doing some re-construction to our own lives as men and fathers lets also pay closer attention to what we speak,the music we listen to, the programs we watch on t.v and listen to on radio.Black men lets all stand up and be counted as one positive force [role-models]in our childrens’lifes.And in the mean time let us start attending a Sunday Church service as a family.Put God first and everything else will fall nicely in order. Thank-you for allowing me to share my heart with you.To Love is in God’s image!
Peace & LOVE,
Dorrien R.Christiani
Too many parents fail to understand that kids need you to be their parent and not their friend. When they are grown up you can look into the whole friend thing, but not before.
You can’t be your kids’ best friend. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/archives/7… #fb
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RT @WendellJordanSr: The one thing that I hate to see is my kids unhappy. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…
The one thing that I hate to see is my kids unhappy. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…
The one thing that I hate to see is my kids unhappy. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…
RT @WendellJordanSr: The one thing that I hate to see is my kids unhappy. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…
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The one thing that I hate to see is my kids unhappy. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…
RT @WendellJordanSr: The one thing that I hate to see is my kids unhappy. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…
RT @WendellJordanSr: The one thing that I hate to see is my kids unhappy. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…
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I must be very careful not to get into a people pleasing role with my kids. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…
RT @WendellJordanSr: I must be very careful not to get into a people pleasing role with my kids. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…
I must be very careful not to get into a people pleasing role with my kids. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…
RT @WendellJordanSr: I must be very careful not to get into a people pleasing role with my kids. http://www.ilovebeingadad.com/2009/10/11…